Stressed, Stretched, and Just Plain Overwhelmed

Stressed, Stretched, and Just Plain Overwhelmed: A Guide to Managing Your Stress and Developing a Greater Sense of Work-Life Balance (Glen Allen, VA: Boitnott Coaching, LLC, 2015)

Stretched, Stressed, and Just Plain Overwhelmed is available from Amazon, but it is also available as a free download if you provide a working email address if you go to


Stressed, Stretched, and Just Plain Overwhelmed


This ebook offers information about the toll stress takes on the human body and offers 7 specific strategies for building resilience so that when life throws challenges your way, you are in a better position to handle them. Written by a teacher who experienced her own burnout, this book is for people who are feeling overwhelmed by life and want to learn how to manage their stress more effectively in a proactive manner.

Here is what a few readers have offered after reading this book:

By S.P. on August 19, 2015

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Great Read! Are you stressed?, then take the stress test. The author paints a clear picture of the different levels of stress that one can experience. Whether it be acute, chronic or episodic, we all experience stress at some time in our lives—in one form or another. The author also offers 7 simple steps to better manage stress. Here you will learn the various methods needed to effectively manage and overcome stress.I would recommend this book to anyone needing to reduce the stress in their lives. After receiving news that my job was being outsourced and finding myself unemployed, my stress level was at an all-time high. I sought ways to take control of the situation, and I found having a process in place was paramount.

My thanks to you Kitty for sharing your personal experiences and for writing this book to help others.

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As a full-time employee, mother of two teenagers, a volunteer at church and a home owner, I have often found myself stressed. I even have experienced some health related issues from years of chronic stress. So, when I found Ms. Boitnott's book I was ready for some productive suggestions about managing the stress in my life. The research she includes makes a strong argument for why it is essential to manage the stress in our lives. The seven suggestions are simple and practical. I have tried to incorporate all of them into my daily routines and am finding life is much more manageable.

I highly recommend this book!

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This is the first time I felt compelled to write any kind of Amazon review. I am writing this review because I think this book my Kitty Boitnott was extremely helpful to read during this time in my career. Entering middle age and strongly desiring a career transition is daunting but is also filled with elements of excitement and positive possibilities. In the mean time, I am keeping my stressful job until I find a better fit. This book has help me with my attitude in the workplace and has help me organize more balance in my life outside the workplace. Kitty is a very sensitive writer and Career Coach and the bottom line is…. she knows what she is talking about. Read this book/it will help.

Can You Send Your Resume in 5 Minutes?

Imagine that a recruiter has just called you to tell you about an absolutely fantastic opportunity that sounds like everything you ever wanted in a job. It could be your dream job!

You are thrilled to hear about it, and then you hear the dreaded words:  “Can you send me your résumé in 5 minutes?”


Most people have something on paper that is akin to a résumé, but most aren’t all that confident that it is all that it should be.

For example, does it accurately portray what you do or can do, or is it just a list of job responsibilities?

Does it include hard transferrable skills or is it overly dependent upon soft skills…things anyone can do

Does it present you as a problem solver? Someone who has a proven record of success?

If you are required to send it through an electronic system, is it “readable?” In other words, will it make it through the Applicant Tracking System or is it possible that a fancy font or a shaded box with something embedded inside it will get hung up…so that no one on the other side of the electronic system can even SEE your résumé?

If you consider yourself a mid-career professional, you may be stuck between the traditional résumé paradigm and the contemporary résumé paradigm. There are books galore with thousands of examples of different résumé formats and examples. How do you know which one is the “right” one for you and your individual situation?


Résumés are totally subjective. I believe you would have a hard time finding 10 different hiring managers or human resource professionals who would agree on which of any 10 different résumés were the “best.”

The bottom line is that your résumé is a tool that will either get you invited to an interview or it won’t.

That means that the job of your résumé is to make the case for why you are a good fit for a particular job.

Need help? That is what my Resume Workshop is intended to provide. Until Tuesday night at midnight only.

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It is packed full of value and I believe it is worth every penny of the $197 value that is attached to it…but for this weekend and through Halloween and into the first of November, I am offering it for only $67…a 66% savings.

  • It includes a 40-minute video tutorial
  • Two (2) résumé templates plus an example
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Even if you don't need it for yourself, you may have someone in your family who needs to learn how to write an effective resume…and here is a good way for them to learn

Paying someone else to write a résumé for you is expensive. Trust me. I know because I did it. I paid an “expert” $395 to write a résumé  for me that I never used. I might as well have flushed that money down the toilet. I felt “had.”

The career coach I ultimately hired to help me in my career transition maintains that we should learn how to write our own résumé and I agree with her 100%.

For one thing, you need to be able to talk about your résumé when you go in for that all-important interview. If someone else has written your résumé for you, how can you know that you won't get tripped up? You don't.

You also need to be able to tweak your résumé for every job application,  so doesn't it makes sense that you would want to be able to do that yourself instead of paying someone every time you need to change it?

This is a deal you won't see anywhere else, and you certainly won't see it at this price.

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If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me. 


Are You Suffering from Low Teacher Morale?

Low teacher morale is nothing new, but teacher burnout which is the extreme version of low morale seems to be on the rise. Teacher morale has been in the tank for years, and the pressures of arbitrary accountability measures and an unfathomable emphasis on testing at the expense of authentic teaching and learning are taking a huge toll on teachers.

Those who are experiencing the symptoms of teacher burnout are also experiencing the dread of having to stay in a profession they no longer love for another 15 or 20 years (or longer).

Some teachers feel stuck because of the promise of their pensions at the end of their career, but even then, it hardly seems worth the sacrifice at times. Teachers who are experiencing burnout are often irritable, sad, or even depressed. They sometimes find themselves taking it out on their kids, which is why I want to counsel them out of the classroom before they do harm to a child’s self-esteem forever. The frustrated roll of a teacher’s eyes, the disdain in a teacher’s voice, a reprimand that is harshly delivered can leave some children with emotional scars that stay with them forever.

Teachers don’t deserve to be stuck in jobs they no longer love, and kids don’t deserve to be stuck with a teacher who doesn’t want to be with them.

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If you are a burned out teacher or if you are suffering from rock-bottom morale, then you may be thinking it is time to go. The problem is where can you go? With so many years in the classroom and degrees in education or educational leadership or curriculum and instruction, where does one go to plug in their talents?

The answer is that as the economy is improving, the options for teachers improve every day. Recruiters tell me that they love to help teachers land new jobs because employers love teachers.

Teachers are smart, they have a great work ethic, they are eager to learn, and they want to be successful.

The fact is that you don’t necessarily have to leave teaching if you are just unhappy with your current situation. Perhaps you have a bullying principal…I hear lots of stories about those folks. Because they are under so much pressure themselves, many principals take it out on their teachers the way some bullying teachers take it out on their students. Maybe you don’t have to leave teaching; you just need a new school or a different school district.

I often talk with teachers who are unhappy, but when I ask them what they have done about, the usual response is “Nothing yet.” My question is “What are you waiting for?”

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Here is what I think the issue is. Because of the way the school year usually runs, it is easy to get stuck and go from year to year hoping that next year will be better. I always thought that one of the great things about being a teacher was that we could come to the end of a school year and have a summer to recover. If it was a particularly rough school year, you could sigh in relief when it was over and hope that next year would be better. Maybe you would have an easier assignment, or perhaps other factors would weigh in and you would just have an easier year. The truth is that for most of us, the years ebb and flow…some are good, some not so much.

You hang in there because you also get the vacation breaks just when you need them most.

People who don’t teach won’t get this, I suspect, but if you are a teacher, you will. The school year generally starts in August or September, depending on your geographic location. Regardless of the location, however, the back-to-school year excitement is palpable. The first day of a school is the best! Everyone and everything is fresh and new, and students and teachers alike are eager to get a new school year started.

Back to School

This sense of “newness” wears off pretty quickly, however. Before the month of September is over, depending on what is happening in your classroom, you as a teacher may already be looking forward to Thanksgiving break. Yikes!

Between Thanksgiving and the Winter Break, you think you can probably do just about anything, so you hang in there. With the Winter Break, you get a few days to relax and decompress. You realize that things are tough, but you renew your hope and faith that the rest of the year will go well as you ring in a new year. By mid-February, you may be totally exhausted, though. You haven’t had a decent break since the Winter Break, and no breaks are in sight until Spring Break. You white-knuckle it until then, and then you start to look forward to the end of the year.

The hardest part of the year is ahead of you because after Spring Break is “Testing Season.”

During the spring testing season, everyone must be tested and re-tested and tested again to make sure everyone can pass the BIG test at the end of the year. For your kids and you, the pressure is on. You must get the kids ready for their tests because your job is on the line if they don’t do well. The feeling of stress begins to permeate the entire school. Everyone feels the burden of needing to do well on their tests. There are after school tutoring sessions and even school rallies…anything to motivate the kids to do well on their tests.

The school year finally comes to an end. You take a big sigh of relief. Once the tests are behind you, you can start to anticipate the end of the year and a sense of anticipation returns. You start to look forward to whatever your summer break holds for you. You can do anything to get to the end of the year, after all, and once the last student is gone, and the room has been packed up for the summer.

You can move on to your summer plans.

Summer break!

By July, regardless of the kind of year you had before, you begin to feel a certain anticipation about the new year which is just around the corner. You start scouting out deals on school supplies and cool new things you can use to decorate your room.

I worked with teachers who would start to come back to school two weeks before the first work day to start getting their room set up.

They came in on their vacation days to put up all their bulletin boards, get the textbooks ready, put names on all of the cubbies, and just generally “nest” before the work week officially started. There are too many meetings to attend and too many interruptions to get that work done once their contract kicked in. As a result, who knows about many hours of free work the district benefits from because teachers are so dedicated? That is the cycle I observed in my 33 years in the K-12 sector, however,and regardless of the school that I served, I saw the same thing time after time, year after year.

Have I described the typical school year for you?

There may be some variations, but the fact is that for many teachers, what I have just described is their life, and I happen to believe it helps to contribute to teachers feeling stuck. They are caught in a perpetual cycle of anticipation…either anticipation of a new year or anticipation of it all being over.

The pain of their current situation gets muddled with their hope that things will be better next year. And truthfully, if next year is better, it is easy to get lulled into thinking that this isn’t so bad after all. The pay is not great, but at least it provides a steady income. The benefits could be better, but at least you have benefits. Your principal may be awful, but the fact is that principals come and go. Maybe you can outlast this one if he or she is terrible.

As a result of all of this going on in the background—some of which you may have been unaware of, frankly—you get lulled into sticking it out year after year. It isn’t until the pain gets too great that you begin to think, “There must be something better for me to do than this.” And the good news there is.

Any teacher can change career direction by using knowledge of the job search process. Understanding the job search process leads to a successful job or career change.

In fact, teachers have may options that don’t include teaching, but most teachers don’t know what their options are, and even if they did, they don’t know how to position themselves to make the change they desire. They haven’t ever managed a traditional job search before, and job hunting for teaching positions is a very different proposition from job hunting in the corporate or nonprofit world.

If you don’t know how to market your transferable skills, you may be in trouble before you even begin your job search.

So, what is a teacher who is suffering from low morale turned to teacher burnout to do? How do you begin to make a transition from a teaching career into another career path? Well, the answer is simple even though the process isn’t necessarily easy. The first thing you have to do is make a decision. Is it time to stay or go? Only you can make that decision for yourself. No one can gauge your level of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your current circumstances but you. I believe that also means, however, that you can’t blame anyone else for what you decide to do. If you succumb to the pressure of family and friends who tell you how easy you have it because you “only work 9 months a year” (Ha!) and you convince yourself that you have it okay even though you are miserable 90% of the time, you only have yourself to thank or to blame as the case may be.

If you decide to tackle your burnout in a proactive manner, however, a number of different outcomes could come from it.

First, you may decide after looking at your options that maybe you are more satisfied than you thought. That happened for me around year nine. I was unhappy. I was working a second job to make ends meet, and I thought there must be a better way. I went to a career counselor and after learning that one of the things I could do would be to stock grocery stores with paper items for a third less than what I was making as a teacher, I decided to reassess. I now don’t believe that that would have been my only option, but I didn’t know what I didn’t know. So, I decided to stay where I was and go for my first Master’s degree. If I was going to stay, I decided to maximize my earnings, and at the time, not only did my district pay for my graduate courses, but there was a significant bump in salary once I finished my degree.

At another point in my career, I realized I was unhappy in my building. My principal was only a so-so leader, and there were other members of the staff who were so negative and disparaging of one another and their students that I realized my morale was suffering. I asked for a transfer and was lucky enough to get it. I say I was lucky because I know that for some, getting transferred from one building to another is sometimes problematic. But is an option, nevertheless, and one that might warrant investigating. Additionally, transferring from one district to another might make a difference. I had one client who did that, and it makes a huge difference in her attitude about teaching. She is much happier today than she was when I first met her.

If staying indefinitely is just not an option. However, it is incumbent upon you to explore your options which are more than you might think. I won’t kid you, though. Depending on what you decide you want to do, there may be a need to go back to school to get additional training.

The good news is that you will have a feeling of renewed energy as you undertake meaningful steps to get you out of your current state of misery and toward a new career that is full of possibility.

Many teachers make the transition from teaching into other fields of endeavor. From sales to marketing, technical writing to human resources. In my case, I became an entrepreneur. I took my skills and combined them with my passions, and I reinvented and retooled myself completely inside of 3 years. If I can do it, you can do.


skills and passions

Entrepreneurship is not a route I would recommend to everyone, but the fact is that if you have an idea, and you are willing to work it, with the online possibilities that are available to you, you could offer your products or programs through the Internet to a market that encompasses the world. I have coached individuals from Egypt, Nigeria, Ireland, Spain, and France as well as Canada and most of the 50 states. If you are willing to think big, big things can happen.

Changing career direction isn’t easy, and it isn’t for wimps.

You have to be committed to it, and you have to be willing to make some initial sacrifices to experience the long term pay off. You may need help to get your job search off the ground. Would you know where to start a job search? Do you know about the need for a new type of resume that is sleeker and more concise than the resume you probably already have? Do you know about the Applicant Tracking System (ATS)? Do you know the number one mistake people make when writing a cover letter? Do you have a LinkedIn profile of which you are proud, or are you embarrassed about the fact that you haven’t got a profile yet? Do you know what to do to prepare for an interview that will result in a job offer? All of these are the moving parts of a traditional job search, and I haven’t even mentioned the need to be aware of your personal and online brand.

The question is should you stay or should you go?


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If you are ready to make a change but don’t know where to start, you are not alone. Many of my clients came to me not knowing where to begin, and in some instances, they weren’t sure what it was that they wanted in the first place. They just knew they weren’t happy with their current circumstances.

You don’t know what you don’t know right now. Is it time to stay or go? Only you can answer that question, but if you are entertaining the question at all, it is time for you to take charge of your life and your career and do something proactive to change your current status. Every day spent in a job that you no longer love is another day wasted.

One Teacher’s Response to the Call to Action

custom_billboard_low_angle_14067 (1)Here is one response to Anthony Cody's call to action to which I referred earlier today in another post. Peter Greene is a high school teacher who maintains a blog entitled “Curmudgeon–A grumpy old teacher trying to keep up with the good classroom fight in the new age of reformy stuff.”

He has responded (as I have) with thoughts on Anthony's call to reluctant warriors. You can see his response here.

He recognizes that he has been a reluctant warrior…but he agrees with Anthony that the time has come to speak up.

I agree. It's not only time, it is past time, but it is always better late than never.


A Call to Action for Teachers

custom_billboard_low_angle_14067 (1)Anthony Cody has been an advocate and activist for public education and for public school teachers and the students in public schools for many years. I first ran into Anthony's work when I was a new member of the then Teacher Leader Network (now the Center for Teaching Quality) back in the 2000's. Anthony is now often quoted in Diane Ravitch's blog as he is a regular blogger himself, and he writes a blog entitled “Living in Dialogue” which is featured in Education Week Teacher.  His latest post is entitled, “Teachers:  A Call to Battle for Reluctant Warriors.”

It has been true for a long time now that public education has been under both overt and covert attack. Education advocates and activists like Anthony Cody, Diane Ravitch, Nancy Flanagan and others have been sounding the alarm for a long time. When I was President of the Virginia Education Association (2008-2012), I spent a good portion of my annual address to the Delegate Assembly trying to share my own sense of urgency about what was happening that too many of them were unaware of because, instead of following education policy news, they were busy trying to teach their kids and keep up with the never ending demands of their districts.

Teachers have been far too reluctant to fight back even though they feel attacked, however. Like “good soldiers” they have gone about the business of meeting the increasingly impossible demands being placed upon them by policy makers and politicians. Too many have shied away from fully believing that there has been a conspiracy afoot with the ultimate goal being to eliminate their positions and to eradicate public education forever in favor of privatized, corporate-run charter schools.

What Anthony Cody is arguing is that it is time to get over the reluctance to fight back if there is any hope of preserving public education as a democratic value in our country. As the gulf between the have's and have not's grows greater by the day, and while teachers work harder and harder everyday to try to meet the impossible demands,  time is running out. If you don't believe me, read Anthony's article from Education Week here.

I join Anthony in asking that teachers pay attention. It is time to fight back if you believe that public education is an important value. I do. I hope you do, too.

Note:  Anthony Cody spent 24 years working in Oakland schools, 18 of them as a science teacher at a high-needs middle school. A National Board- certified teacher, he now leads workshops with teachers on Project Based Learning. He is the co-founder of the Network for Public Education. With education at a crossroads, he invites you to join him in a dialogue on education reform and teaching for change and deep learning.Follow Anthony Cody on Twitter.

Another Teacher Resigns Over Low Pay and Lack of Respect

Another teacher–this time a National Board Certified Teacher with 13 years of experience–resigns because she can't pay her bills on the low salary she was earning in North Carolina. She is tired of trying to make ends meet, and she is really tired of the disrespect being offered to teachers in NC, not to mention the fact that teaching is no longer fun, given the over-emphasis on testing and reliance on data. See the interview and read her letter of resignation which she addressed to the Governor of North Carolina along with others here.